Monday, December 20, 2010

A Frustrating Season

For many of us, this time of year is a time of hope, of renewal, and of goodwill towards our fellow men. Unfortunately, when it comes to our gaming group, it's very much a season of frustration.

This past Friday was another example of mass cancellations/withdrawals in regards to our Pathfinder camapaign. It's now been over a month since we actually ran a game. My own part in this is not proud; real life came up, and I confess I was a cancellation in the past. I wasn't happy about it, though, and I was hoping to get to play this Friday. It didn't happen, and I doubt we'll meet over the holidays, which means I have to look towards January before our gaming group meets back up.

It isn't my first time being part of an unstable gaming group; life comes up, and that's how it is. This campaign, however, isn't the sort that can be addressed by a West Marches-style sandboxer, or a number of one-shot side quests. It has a more unified running theme, and I fear we're just killing it.

Our Game Master has really undertaken a lot of work with this campaign, and I feel bad for him, plain and simple. I've been in that chair, and it's not a fun feeling to see something you worked so hard on apparently discarded.

This past weekend, I took time off of my normal scouring of the gaming boards to think about things. I didn't update here, I didn't read more of BASH! Ultimate Edition (even though I really wanted to), and just thought about gaming. I came to the conclusion I've still got the fire for it, but I need to figure out some way to better balance it with my work, life, and family. Call it a New Year's resolution. It's the sort of thing that isn't fixed by cookie-cutter advice; I need to weigh things and figure out where it all comes into play. I need to talk to my GM, and see what he's feeling. We'll see where it all goes, but I hope we find a better way to go forward.


Bonemaster said...

Zach, I know exactly where your coming from. I haven't been able to game in a little while. I haven't even tried to schedule things since I know that I may have to cancel. I haven't been doing anything outside of RPG Circus on a regular basis. For the most part, I'm taking the remainder of the year off. While I'm on holiday, it is my plan to hopefully find out what I plan on doing and finish repainting some old miniatures.

I think it will be interesting to see what our New Year Resolutions will be. The only thing I know for sure is that I will be recording more RPG Circus next year. Everything else is sort of up in the air right now.

Hope you have some good holidays.

Risus Monkey said...

December is a dead zone for our group. :(

Bonemaster said...

@Risus Monkey - I don't think December is good month for many people.

bliss_infinte said...

We usually don't schedule any game sessions during December as everyone tends to be too busy. Why fight it? We just all meet back up in January.

clash bowley said...

Had my entire face to face group cancel last session! I know how it feels! We are out for Christmas and New Years, so I only have my IRC games to run on! If I didn't have gaming to recharge me, I'd be exhausted by real life!


Matt said...

My group always took the holiday season off. Our last game would be mid-November, pre-Thanksgiving, and then we'd restart in January.

DNAphil said...

Our group has a formalized Hiatus, where we end our face-to-face gaming just after Thanksgiving, so that we can turn our attention to family and friends for the holiday season. We then come back in early January ready to play.

The thing do during this time is to review the games we are playing. Take the time to re-read the rules for the games we are playing. GM's take this time to clean up campaign notes, get ahead on session writing.

In all the Hiatus leaves us all with a sense of anticipation for gaming again in Jan, without the frustration of trying to get games in, during December.

clash bowley said...


Sounds like a great idea, except I would die with that long between games.


Brunomac said...

It was hell in the late 90's for me. We seemed to only be able to get a full group every two months. That would be a long 8 hour weekend session, but still, it was harsh. Now with the latest group I get to run games more often. The biggest bummer though has been the fact that I want every player their for the regular AD&D campaign. So there has been a lot of alternative games (OD&D, Metamorphosis Alpha, etc). I just wish it was a little easier to get everybody together.

Jason said...

Sometimes I think a lot of us take gaming far too seriously. It's a hobby, and an awesome one, but in the end, it's just a game. All of my gaming groups (I am in three) fall apart around the holidays every year. We just accept that's the way it is--there's just too much going on between Thanksgiving and New Years. We put the game on hold, get together if we can, but don't count on it, and pick back up after the holiday season. We all survive, as does the game.

Just my $.02

Greg Christopher said...

I have voluntarily withdrawn from my group temporarily due to having a new kid, which is even worse than the holiday season. I can't imagine trying to game with 2 kids during December, yikes!

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